Comments on: Eye Contact (Follow-up)

By: Fraser

Fraser — Wed, 20 Sep 2006 16:47:23 +0000

I felt the same way as you - warm, open, connected. It feels like that connection is the elevated next level beyond the smile, the laugh, or the engaging question.

At times, in what has felt odd after the fact… I’ve felt safe. Protected even? Like we’d exchanged a knowing glance, a nod of acceptance.

I can understand why good therapists would use the technique - it’s an entirely different connection.

Welcome to DisruptiveThoughts by the way - glad you’re enjoying the recent activity and thanks for adding to the conversation.

By: Jecklin

Jecklin — Wed, 20 Sep 2006 16:23:30 +0000

You’re on a roll with these posts.

What often throws the penetrating-eye-contact-for-power- trippers off is simply returning the penetrating eye contact in a warm, open way.

I would like to know how _you_ felt the first time you encountered an individual who is a fellow eye contacter. I remember; it was akward, but in a joyful, ecstatic way.

Every good therapist uses the kind of eye contact you describe to establish rapport.

By: Fraser

Fraser — Wed, 20 Sep 2006 15:47:23 +0000

I felt the same way as you - warm, open, connected. It feels like that connection is the elevated next level beyond the smile, the laugh, or the engaging question. At times, in what has felt odd after the fact… I’ve felt safe. Protected even? Like we’d exchanged a knowing glance, a nod of acceptance. I can understand why good therapists would use the technique - it’s an entirely different connection. Welcome to DisruptiveThoughts by the way - glad you’re enjoying the recent activity and thanks for adding to the conversation.

By: Jecklin

Jecklin — Wed, 20 Sep 2006 15:23:30 +0000

You’re on a roll with these posts. What often throws the penetrating-eye-contact-for-power- trippers off is simply returning the penetrating eye contact in a warm, open way. I would like to know how _you_ felt the first time you encountered an individual who is a fellow eye contacter. I remember; it was akward, but in a joyful, ecstatic way. Every good therapist uses the kind of eye contact you describe to establish rapport.